Setting Healthy Boundaries 2022

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Let’s talk boundaries.

Boundaries help you keep your sanity and increase your confidence and self esteem. They are also a form of self-care.

Boundaries keep you in control, set guidelines for what you will and will not accept and allow you peace of mind.

Here are my favorite 4 boundaries :

• Just Say No: Saying NO to something is a complete sentence and there is no need for explanation. Politely decline anything that doesn’t feel right. Here’s how to say NO

  • NO

  • That doesn’t work for me

  • No thank you

  • We can’t make it

  • Thank you for the invitation , I hope to see you next time

  • Thank you for thinking of us, enjoy your event

• Don’t over commit! Let’s face it, we all do it! We get so many things on our calendar that we end up feeling exhausted at the end of he day, which takes away from us actually enjoying the experiences. Here are some ways to decline an invitation:

  • I woud love to join you, but I am overscheduled right now

  • I have made a promise to myself not to put too many things on my calendar, Can I take a rain check?

  • I want to be able to fully enjoy your event but because I already have something scheduled on the same day , I would love to take a rain check

  • Thank you for the invitation , I already have plans with frinds/family yet would love to schedule something with you
    
    

• Stop Negative/Uncomfortable Conversations Immediately: If a conversation is making you feel uneasy, you have every right to stop it right then and there. Here are some examples of what you can say :

  • I really don’t feel comfortable talking about this

  • I don’t like talking about Mary when she isn’t present

  • It doesn’t feel good when you talk about my weight

  • I don’t feel like discussing my relationship status is appropriate

  • Can we change the conversation?

• Prioritize Self Care: You are responsible for taking care of yourself. DO more of the things that fuel your soul (don’t think it has to be an expensive spa day or trip to an exotic destination). Self care can look like:

  • Long Baths

  • Reading/Journaling/Writing

  • Painting/Drawing/Creating

  • Exercise

  • Time Spent Outside

  • Dancing

  • Cooking

  • A Spa Day

  • Time Spent with a Friend

If someone has an issue with a boundary you’ve set, that’s on them and NOT you. ( and probably means you probably REALLY needed to set the boundary in first place ).

Remember, you OWE it to yourself to set healthy boundaries as boundaries are a form of self care.